12 November 2021


Every one of us has been through an ordeal in our lives but it is how we deal with these past experiences that defines who we are. Losing a loved one, a job or a relationship can make us lose faith in the world and in ourselves. Ironically, these same experiences can also make us stronger and more empathetic. Sometimes, we just need a little help to get us through the tough times - a well-meaning friend, a life coach or a trained therapist. Sometimes, the best way to move on from the past is to talk to a professional that specializes in working with people that have experienced traumatic or painful issues.

Just like that important first day at a new school, feeling confident and ready for the future is the first step to helping you move on from the past and build a brighter future. In this post, we will go through some tips on how to move on from the past to finally live a happy and healthy life.

Understand why you are dwelling in the past 

We can't help but feel nostalgic about how things used to be, and if we are not careful, this can trigger an emotional reaction that can negatively impact our health. Research shows that by understanding why we are dwelling in the past, we can address this emotional reaction and move on to more productive decisions. You need to face the facts of what’s keeping you in the past so you won’t have to stay there.

Understand the importance of moving on 

No matter what your past experiences have been, it is important to understand that moving on is an important part of healing. Moving on is what allows you to move forward, as it is what allows you to grow, learn, and become a better person ready to make new memories. 

Understand the importance of forgiving yourself 

It is normal to feel a wave of anger when we do something we regret. It is vital to turn this into self-forgiveness, in which we forgive ourselves for the mistake and feel compassion for our poor judgement. This self-forgiveness means we don't let our past mistakes affect our present choices, or future goals.

Focusing on self-forgiveness is important because it is the only way you can truly move forward. The past is over, but you can't change it. You can only control what happens in the future.

Understand the importance of forgiving others

When you are dealing with a situation that you feel hurtful, it is important to realize that the pain that you are feeling is not going to go away. Rather, the pain needs to be recognized and addressed. In order to process the pain, you must forgive the people or things that caused you pain. This is a very difficult step to take, and it is the one that may take the longest. However, the process of forgiving is necessary in helping you move on and to create a healthier relationship with yourself, with the people that you care about, and with the world.

Write down your feelings 

Being aware of how you feel is an important step on the road to recovery. Write down your feelings and analyse them in a constructive manner. Then, learn to manage emotions. Although they are part of human nature, they can be a bit of a burden. Try to learn to 'read' your emotions and understand them. And, try to make changes you think will help you move forward and have a plan. Lastly, honestly and deeply accept and apply what you have learned.


To move on from the past, you need to learn from the past. Create a plan for the future and work on your current relationships and your own self esteem. A new start on life is possible when you make a change for the better and learn from the past.

5 Tips to Move on From the Past

12 November 2021

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